You must find the right job – but first you need to find the right people
People. It is all about people. Finding the right working environment is more important than say, finding the right job. This can challenging because we are not in control of comes our way, but we can make choices that will steer us in the right direction. You job success depends more on the people you work with, than your actual job title. Let’s see if this is true or not.
People are more important than things
We don’t live in a world of things, we live in a world of people. And the people you associate with will determine how well you do your job. Not knowing that was a mistake I’ve made for years and it took me a long time to learn and correct. You are better off doing mediocre things with good people then doing good things with mediocre people. Better yet is to do good things with good people.
The nature of nursing
Nursing has a unique quality. Nursing is different than most jobs because in nursing we perform extraordinary tasks. There is a lot of stress, people die, and there are strange and strong emotions all around. It is intense, and because things are intense we have pretty intense people. When you find good people, they are great, but when they are bad they are the worst. I’ve encounter more toxic people in nursing more than in any other profession (I had a few).
You either fit in or you don’t
It is quite simple. You don’t have to try to fit in, you either do or you don’t. It is pretty obvious in either case. However we are so determined to make things work, we often paint a different reality to fit our rosy expectations and this can end up costing you. There is nothing worst than trying to fit in with a crowd you are not compatible. On the other hand if you do fit in is undeniable; there is a joyous and pleasant feeling that lasts throughout the day and goes home with you in the end of the day.
There are great places out there and there others filled with problems. It is not so easy telling them apart right away. Your judgment might be tainted by your desires of hoping everything works out well; after all it is a big investment of your time and emotion to embark into a new job.
But the naked truth is that there are toxic places out there, and a lot of them I’m afraid. One bad apple can spoil the whole batch. When the boss behaves like a ass, everyone behaves like such, and when the boss is nice and sweet everyone emulates the boss. There are however a few clues that a place is bad:
- Everyone fears the boss
- People leave exactly at quitting time
- Coworkers don’t socialize
- There is never laughing
- Workers are constantly jumping ship
- There is a lot of anger and gossiping in the air
Make your choices (set your values high)
Set your priorities along the lines I’ve just mentioned. I know is sounds a bit crazy because we don’t go to work to socialize. But remember, you’ll spend 40 – 50 hours a week with your co-workers. That is more time than you spend with your friends and family. Don’t waste your precious time in a toxic place, because if you do you’ll become toxic too. It will destroy your life if you do it for many years – life is short.
If you take a job but can’t get along with people within a few weeks – you have a problem. If your boss calls you frequently to tell you’re not doing well and you believe you are doing well, it’s time to leave.
Your boss is probably trying to give you a clue that they don’t like you. Don’t ever try to work things out because it will never work out. They simply don’t want to keep you for whatever reason, and they are trying to find a reason to let you go. In the end, they just hope that you go on your own.
If you start hearing things such as we want to see marked improvement in the next few weeks just prepare your resignation letter right then and there.
Don’t get attached to any particular place. There are hundreds of places to choose from. Your patience and resilience will pay off handsomely. Don’t settle for any place just because it means a paycheck, because in the end you’ll end up without the paycheck and an unpleasant situation. Better just to be without the paycheck for the moment. Keep your integrity.
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